It all started when…
The legendary 'mother of masturbation,' Betty Dodson, began teaching women about orgasms in her Manhattan living room in the 70s. I attended my first workshop with Betty in 2016 in that very same living room, and went on to get certified in the Bodysex method later that year.
I now lead these same workshops, raising pleasure consciousness and dispelling body shame in living rooms all over the world.
So what the hell is bodysex?
A Bodysex workshop is a women-only, 10 hour workshop, and a deeply transformational, life-changing experience.
Its purpose is to bring awareness, healing, and celebration to the relationship with your own body and sexuality. You'll leave body shame behind, and walk more proudly with confidence in yourself, your body, and feeling more worthy of living your life in pleasure and joy.
It's done in the nude, but it's not sexual. The environment is a safe, supportive space of a circle of women. It's sisterhood at its best, where competition disappears, and we all learn from each other, building strong connections and friendships.
The workshop is sometimes done in one day and sometimes spread across 2, depending on the size of the group. There are 5 set rituals that were handed down from Betty (that are listed below), and we leave space for new, organic ones to emerge as well.
1. YOUR BODY. YOUR ORGASM.
We all share first person, answering the questions: how do you feel about your body? How do you feel about your orgasm?
2. GENITAL SHOW & TELL
We get to see a vast array of vulvas, that they're all normal, and beautiful. Naming and reclaiming your vulva is an empowering ritual.
3. ROCK & ROLL TECHNIQUE
We demonstrate Betty's Rock&Roll technique: the combination of clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration, designed for a blended orgasm. (FYI, this method has been scientifically proven to be 93% effective in helping anorgasmic women achieve orgasm). It's not all about orgasm, and we don't care at all if you have one, but this is the most effective way to create one, if having one is something you want.
4. EROTIC RECESS SESSION
We spread ourselves out around the room in our little nests of pleasure (pillows, blankets, and a rocking playlist) to enjoy and explore our pleasure on our own. Yes, we masturbate together, alone. It's about celebrating pleasure, recognizing how natural it is, in a completely judgement-free environment. It is about witnessing authentic sexual expression, it is about laughing and freedom, it is about curiosity and asking questions you have always wanted to ask. It really is recess.
5. GROUP MASSAGE
This is maybe my favourite. It is such a tender experience that I wish every woman could have. We share massage in smaller groups, with non-sexual touch. We get to experience compassion and care.
Most women go out for dinner together after the second night. You might feel terrified coming into the space on Day 1 and taking your clothes off, but I guarantee you, it will feel weird putting them back on after Day 2. This workshop creates deep bonds, and a level of comfortability that most will never experience.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:
What if I have my period?
No problem. You can use a tampon, menstrual cup, or a piece of natural sea sponge during genital show & tell and erotic recess.
What if I have a yeast infection?
No problem. I would recommend some cranberry pills or the monistat egg to treat your yeast infection then head over to the workshop.
What if I can't orgasm?
If you orgasm, great. If you don't, that's ok too. Orgasm is NOT the goal. We're here to heal body shame, overcome sexual guilt and experience true sisterhood. There's no agenda and no expectations.
What if I have a history of trauma and I get triggered AF?
While Bodysex probably isn't the best first place to deal with unresolved trauma, we have space for you to get triggered, feel your feels, and talk it out. We create a sacred, supportive circle of sisterhood. We trust that everything that comes up in the circle benefits the entire circle. Your trauma history is not a burden. You belong here.
What if I know someone in the workshop?
This is by far the most common question I receive, and it really speaks to why this work is so important. Bodysex is about breaking down the shame we have around our sexuality. A safe and confidential space of mutual vulnerability is created at the beginning. We are all in this together, reclaiming the innocence of our nudity and our sexuality. This is where we create deep bonds of sisterhood.
If you are not willing to go there for fear of being seen by someone who may know you previously, then this workshop is not for you. Please reach out to arrange a private 1:1 experience.
Can I bring my own barbell and wand?
Yes. If you've already purchased the barbell and the wand, you can bring them with you to the workshop.
Can I bring something to eat?
Of course. We provide gluten free, vegan friendly meals, but you are welcome to bring your own.
If you have any other questions, you can email me directly: firstname.lastname@example.org
Space is very limited, please email email@example.com to reserve your spot. You will receive the exact address, and final details a week before the workshop.
The cost of the workshop is $800 CAD, with special accommodations made for those in financial need (single mothers, students, seniors, etc). Please do not hesitate to email me with your circumstances. Women are incredibly resourceful, we will figure out a way to make this available to you.
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